Ssshhh I’m hiding from negative people

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Quote Anon

This quote/ phrase made me smile. However, there is good news if you too are in hiding. You do not need to hide. Which is great as the media distributes negativity like Cath Kidson prints flowers, the majority of the world are moaning and if like me you try and keep your vibration up it can feel like the universe in colluding against you.

I am a ninja of positivity and a black belt in keeping my vibration high, why? My soul mate is a miserable git. This means I live with the dark side and over the years I’ve learnt all the tricks. Below I’m going to spread the love on how to remain positive when faced with doom (also known as ‘living with Mr F – a survival guide’).

  • Energy is attracted to like, so if you can spend time with like minded peeps – do so. I always avoid large meeting spaces like the staffroom, or children’s soft play – seriously stressful places.
  • When Mr F is downstairs in a grump, I move myself upstairs or to another room, I drown his noise out with music that’s upbeat
  • Change the subject. If you’re in a good enough vibration to hear that the person you’re talking to is being negative change the subject. If you can’t close that conversation down and get away. (See previous bullet point)
  • Sometimes I laugh at Mr F, probably not the best advice but it raises my vibration and is a clear message to him that he is grumpy.
  • I make time in the morning to work on me, before the world and Mr F grunts. This means I’ve already established my pattern and I’m flying high. (Things you can do to achieve this include meditate, listen to your thoughts, set intentions, establish a good morning routine, listen to a positive podcast)
  • I end the day how I want. I don’t follow Mr F to bed when he is tired. I might stay downstairs or do my own thing. If I do follow him it ends up in a squabble.
  • I keep busy – feeling accomplished helps me to vibrate higher.
  • If a crack of a smile should enter Mr Fs face I celebrate it. AKA enjoy it whilst it lasts.

How do you stay smiling when the world outside is grey?

The Saturday Session #26

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Welcome to week 26 and I am shattered. This is the excuse I’m going to use for the horrendous shadowing in my photo above…CBA to change it though. I hope week twenty six treated you well, it seemed to go extremely quickly for me and although I was a little sad to say good bye to the snow my featured blogger kept the love going.

If you have little ones and are looking for some sensory play, I truly think that Sensational Learning with Penguin is the place for you. Its the adventures of a home educated Autistic ‘Penguin’ and he’s Mummy. I mention he’s diagnosis as a recommendation for parents in a similar situation to take a peek, this Mummy is acing her little dudes character and finding ways to stimulate him beyond the traditional format. The love that pours for her Penguin is contagious. I’ve picked this particular blog as my little dude would love to play with this recipe for snow. Plus, it has coconut in it which with my tropical clan is always a winner. Whilst my featured blogger collects her badge from my side bar – you can also click over to Hayley’s post 26 and see who she has picked as her featured blogger.

For the rest of #thesatsesh crew grab a badge and read the rules below, remember commenting is caring and each week we select two featured bloggers, so double the love 🙂

RULES

  • Link up You can link up to 2 posts, old or new
  • Grab a badge Please do add #thesatsesh badge. You can do this by copying and pasting the badge code into the text/HTML area of your post within your publishing platform and its located in my side bar for your ease.
  • Tweet Share your posts on Twitter using the linky hashtag #thesatsesh and tag us in for retweets @fridgesays @mummy_mindful. Follow us if you don’t already please.
  • Comment sit back, relax (its the weekend after all). Please use #thesatsesh and in usual linky etiquette comment on each of the hosts posts, mine and Hayleys, the post before and after yours. If you comment on more, that would be wonderful but FOUR is more than enough
  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t. 

OPTIONAL EXTRA: Come and play in our IG community by using #thesatsesh for photos of your weekend or perhaps connected to a post you’ve linked. Follow us on Instagram @fridgesays and @mission_mindfulness_blog and we will keep up to date and follow you back.

 

You’ll turn out ordinary if you’re not careful

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Quote by Ann Brashares.

This quote made me smile. So many people of all ages lack a love for themselves. Why? Most of us are trying to be someone we aren’t. Perhaps not all of the time, but as we juggle all of the various hats on that we wear throughout the day we prefer the fit of some and hide behind others.

During my early teaching years I tried to emulate colleagues who I thought did the job well, or teachers who taught me. It didn’t work. It wasn’t me.

As a mother that was an entirely new hat (complete with ruined core muscles) that took a while to fit. I needed my hat adjusted as I took on the new role. To work out who my mum tribe was, to raise my little dude in our own way and to adjust the hat to fit me. I can’t mum like my mother did, I’m not her, although she is an amazing example, I’m raising my child in a different era with a new journey ahead of us. It took a while and needs constant adjusting but my mum hat is bespoke. It’s me and it fits like a dream.

I’m not sure anyone is happy to live an ordinary life, I think we would all opt for sparkle and quirk. However, there are a few things you need to do to live this life.

  • You need to be brave, to step away from the crowds when it doesn’t suit you.
  • You need a tribe around you that accepts you, cracks an’ all.
  • You need time to yourself, balanced with time with loved ones. There is a lot of research to suggest we ‘are’ the five people we spend the most time with. If these people are ordinary so are you.

I can’t juggle my ever growing hat stand without time for myself; to be creative, to be healthy and to be quiet. The world is a whirl of distractions and so I need to breath and pause, to check I’m on the pathway that best fits me.

This week perhaps you need to check your own hat stand out. The hats that are last season, the hats you hate, the hats you wear because everybody else does. Perhaps it’s even time to buy a new hat. Just make sure the hats are your own design and not made for somebody else.

Happy hat shopping.

The Saturday Session #25

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Well, if you read week #24 you’ll know this week was full of late nights and meetings…then it snowed. England rarely gets covered in flakes so unlike hardcore places like Canada we crumbled; transportation stops, the infrastructure crumbles and every child prays for a snow day.

Sadly, despite my cohost Hayley promising to snow dance for me, I never got my snow day. BUT I did get to pick my son up from school on Friday with his Daddy, plus his little mate came with us for some sledging memories. It was lots of fun and it totally filled my cup up. I was home early thanks to cancelled meetings and tonight we are celebrating the weekends arrival with pizza and treats. It just goes to show that you never really can predict the week you’re going to have and I was certainly delighted to spend some ‘bonus’ time with my tribe.

Teri from ‘The Rhyming Mum’ is my featured blogger this week, as her post resonated with my bonus time with my dude…the poem is titled I’ll do anything for you and you absolutely need to click the link and have a laugh/ cry to this talented ladies latest piece. If I’m honest I have a bit of a blog crush on her, I wish I could rhyme as well…alas its a little like my singing, in my head I sound like Adele out loud my family are quick to run. My favourite from Teri’s poem in the stanza that talks about loving with age…

“Even when you’re 52,
With children who look up to you,
And a partner who looks after you too,
I’d still do anything for you.”

Umm…yup, I am totally that Mum too! Parental love is a unique gift that seems to balance ‘you’ve taken me to the edge’ to ‘ohh you’re so cute’ in seconds. I honestly didn’t think I’d see the little dude much this week and I’m so grateful that we not only got to create memories together as a family, but were also able to stay safe and warm when it was needed.

Feeling blessed, lets roll into week 25 of #thesatsesh. Thanks to all of those that badges up and commented this week, please don’t forget to give others the love by following the rules. As always, you can pop over to Hayley’s blog Mission Mindfulness to see who she has picked as her featured blogger.

RULES

  • Link up You can link up to 2 posts, old or new
  • Grab a badge Please do add #thesatsesh badge. You can do this by copying and pasting the badge code into the text/HTML area of your post within your publishing platform and its located in my side bar for your ease.
  • Tweet Share your posts on Twitter using the linky hashtag #thesatsesh and tag us in for retweets @fridgesays @mummy_mindful. Follow us if you don’t already please.
  • Comment sit back, relax (its the weekend after all). Please use #thesatsesh and in usual linky etiquette comment on each of the hosts posts, mine and Hayleys, the post before and after yours. If you comment on more, that would be wonderful but FOUR is more than enough
  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t. 

OPTIONAL EXTRA: Come and play in our IG community by using #thesatsesh for photos of your weekend or perhaps connected to a post you’ve linked. Follow us on Instagram @fridgesays and @mission_mindfulness_blog and we will keep up to date and follow you back.

Little by little…

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A Tanzanian proverb that filled by cup.

Today I want to talk about celebrating. I learnt this from a online entrepreneur who I follow on social media called Lana; she does youtube clips, blogs, master classes and all sorts of delightful enriching and motivating things. I may even be like her when I grow up (although I think she might be the same age as me, plus I do have plans to be a Mermaid). She celebrates anything and everything and lately I have discovered the joy of  celebrating in other people accomplishments. As a British citizen it is by nature that I am meant to be ‘pleased’ for others but not really show it, kick others down where possible and as a women there is also this catty nature of not raise each other up.

Not on my watch.

This week my heart broke for the talented blogger Wendy who is responsible for the fabulous site Naptime natter, as her son was rushed into hospital extremely ill and with doctors not really able to tell her what it was (although thank heavens it wasn’t Meningitis). Through Instagram she shared her worries, thoughts and it gave me and others an opportunity to send her some much needed love. (The blogging community rocks at times), however today (22.02.18) the photograph we had all been waiting for was released – they are home safely. Hurray for medical expertise, the power of positive thinking and her child being a little warrior.  I do not know her, but I felt relieved. I commented that I’d be celebrating this weekend and I blooming well will did. I opted for a cocktail and toasted her families triumph. I then toasted and was/am grateful for my own families health. Celebrating makes you feel good. Celebrating for others is also super fun. My last Champagne toast was for a friends birthday (even though she wasn’t really celebrating herself or with me), in the week little dude bought a beautiful piece of work home – we celebrated, this time with a more appropriate child friendly hot chocolate (with whipped cream), later that week we celebrated again with a pizza party thanks to a sticker regarding his improvements in reading. *note to self: not all my celebrations are food motivated.

Life is too short and like the quote states – too little, to wait for my next birthday, invite to a party or even Christmas. The journey is more joyful with little moments of celebration and recognition as you go…a little celebration makes for a life of parties. That’s the kind of life I’m interesting in living.

Interested in the party lifestyle? Time for some homework: this week I urge you to celebrate as many times as possible. When your child read’s well, blow up some balloons that you’ve got stashed in the draw. When a friend tells you they have a promotion – toast that! When you get some social media comments that make you smile, dance. Seriously, spontaneous dance parties in my kitchen are very common and a bonus is you can burn calories that you can then use later in celebration of something else. (Oops the good things back again)

Its often the little moments, the little wins and the little memories that stay with you. Create some fun this week and comment below with your antics (I can then use these as an excuse to further rejoice in).

The Saturday Session #24

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Welcome to week twenty four of our lovely linky. This week was the one before the storm…a slow paced week prior to more data being inputted, parents evenings, meetings and meetings about meetings for meeting tick box sake. So I took advantage of being home and present in the moment. I purposfully made time in the week for some couple time – we decided to watch a film and on another evening do some yoga together, I also had time with my son for some creative play, a little extra school work (for him) and made some of his favourite meals. I also made time for me, so my nails are painted and whilst I marked in the week I popped on a face pack – bliss! Ive also started a new book for leisure purposes which always makes me smile. Reading seems to feed my soul. 

This week my featured blogger nicely links in with the theme of my future weeks – parents evening. Click the link here to read Empty Nest Mummy’s funny and honest account of her fear – Teachers. Both Hayley my cohost and I are exactly that and so rather than resonating as a parent, I found myself on the other side of the desk laughing at how someone could fear 4ft11 me. However, in the up coming parents evening I promise to smile a little larger, speak a little slower and hopefully win over any anxiety ridden parents. My career is super important to me, I feel privileged that parents trust me, us and our school with their most precious piece of their hearts, but I never thought for a moment that I made anyone feel fearful…

“It’s the teachers, and their Special Powers of Parental Control, that reduce me to a quivering ball of fear”

As my son started school himself this academic year I do find it odd sitting on the other side of the table, but I will confess a secret to our special powers quoted above…we are human and parents are often really scary. Particularly if they are writing notes, nodding when a nod isn’t something you saw coming, or frankly they are arguing with the other parent in front of you (totes awk). Please take time to read this fab post and why not see who Hayley selected as her featured blogger this week by clicking here . Rules for this weeks linky are below and I look forward to seeing your photo’s on IG by using the hashtag #thesatsesh 

RULES

  • Link up You can link up to 2 posts, old or new
  • Grab a badge Please do add #thesatsesh badge. You can do this by copying and pasting the badge code into the text/HTML area of your post within your publishing platform and its located in my side bar for your ease.
  • Tweet Share your posts on Twitter using the linky hashtag #thesatsesh and tag us in for retweets @fridgesays @mummy_mindful. Follow us if you don’t already please.
  • Comment sit back, relax (its the weekend after all). Please use #thesatsesh and in usual linky etiquette comment on each of the hosts posts, mine and Hayleys, the post before and after yours. If you comment on more, that would be wonderful but FOUR is more than enough
  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t. 

OPTIONAL EXTRA: Come and play in our IG community by using #thesatsesh for photos of your weekend or perhaps connected to a post you’ve linked. Follow us on Instagram @fridgesays and @mission_mindfulness_blog and we will keep up to date and follow you back.

I like my music so loud I can’t hear my thoughts

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Quote Anon.

We are a musical family. My record player is blasting from the kitchen, in the car the base is always turned up and even in bed I often hit Spotify for some relaxing melodies to drift me off to the land of nod, bath music is often classical and did I mention music in the garden too. However, one thing is true – I adore my music turned up loud.

My personal music collection is eclectic and I tend to pick a different genre depending on the time of day, mood I’m in or mood I wish to create.

There is also a power in the silent moment of life which id like to acknowledge and have previously written about. However, when my mind is overloaded with lists of things to do, or if I’m building myself up for the day ahead – I often quieten my brain with my music turned up LOUD. I am totally a karaoke car Queen. I also thankful to Bluetooth, which means people now think I’m on the phone rather than giving myself a pep talk, raving, jiving or am a pop princess. Sometimes I make up lyrics to classical pieces (warning this is a simple way to destroy the power of Mozart in seconds), however if you often get anxious, are an over thinker or generally find your brain a hard place to be then music can be a pleasant vacation; you also don’t need to prebook via a travel agent, it’s often free and jet lag never occurs. In my opinion the louder the better helps to push away the outside distractions and internal frustrations.

How do you use music to control your emotions?

The Saturday Session #23

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Ok, so I loaded up a blog last night and some how it all crashed out?

So todays #23 is going to be short and sweet.

My featured blogger is Mum bore, apart from the name (It gives me serious brand envy) I was completely drawn to her post titled ‘The pursuit of happiness’ I would totally recommend a read. It was a good reminder that happiness isn’t about being perfect (which since I’m writing this in a rush because of some technical hitch, its now become rather ironic to say the least). I particularly liked this line

“we forget that happiness is not a static emotion. Once reached it does not mean that it will remain.”

I often find society is consumed by searching for happiness and in doing so they often miss out on the current gift – the present. Which is totally cliche and blooming true. Anyway, please give Mum Bore the love she deserves and I hope she can collect her badge from my side bar…seriously I couldn’t cope with anymore computer fails today 🙂

You can also check out my cohost Hayley’s featured blogger, we each pick one every week by clicking the link here  . So now to the rules…and lets kick start week 23 with a little more structure, calm and sunshine. Thanks for joining us if you are a regular and if you are new on the block then I apologise for the erratic post today.

RULES

  • Link up You can link up to 2 posts, old or new
  • Grab a badge Please do add #thesatsesh badge. You can do this by copying and pasting the badge code into the text/HTML area of your post within your publishing platform and its located in my side bar for your ease.
  • Tweet Share your posts on Twitter using the linky hashtag #thesatsesh and tag us in for retweets @fridgesays @mummy_mindful. Follow us if you don’t already please.
  • Comment sit back, relax (its the weekend after all). Please use #thesatsesh and in usual linky etiquette comment on each of the hosts posts, mine and Hayleys, the post before and after yours. If you comment on more, that would be wonderful but FOUR is more than enough
  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t. 

OPTIONAL EXTRA: Come and play in our IG community by using #thesatsesh for photos of your weekend or perhaps connected to a post you’ve linked. Follow us on Instagram @fridgesays and @mission_mindfulness_blog and we will keep up to date and follow you back.

Don’t be bitter. Be better

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Quote by Habeeb Akande

Welcome fridgesays peeps, this week we are letting go of the bitterness and being better. This sounds simple. In cooking it would equate to a basic sponge cake or a classic scone. However, in my experience the simplest of things are sometimes super hard to make. The sponge can lack a fluffy texture and the scones can be too hard or stodgy.

When I’m feeling bitter (often) it’s easy to compare what others aren’t doing, what they are ‘getting away with’ or just judge with bitterness and disgust, sometimes this can be therapeutic but hold on to the bitterness for too long and if we return to our cake recipes, you’ve just added lemon and lime to a scone and grapefruit to a sponge cake…it’s going to repeat in your mouth, taste ‘unique’ and not be as good as it could be.

My recipe recommendation: It would be easy to say ‘don’t be bitter’ but sometimes a little lime slips into life’s chaotic moments, instead I say, cover that cake in cream and jam.

Jam and cream can make just about anything taste good and in life these are the lovely moments. Instead of becoming bitter of others, reflect on what went well in your day. Gratitude is the cream and jam of life, those little moments of triumph, those sparkles of joy and best of all…they make us better or will at least help us to get to a place where we aren’t moaning about others but are focusing on what we did well.

A better me, makes a better mummy, teacher, friend or family member. So why not leave the lemon and limes for a cocktail and enjoy the cake of life.

The Saturday Session #22

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Week 22 saw me tick off the final week before half term (in the UK) however, before I tell you it was like a breeze – it was hard, super hard. In the world of child protection it involves my emotions flying from zero to hero…and then back to zero in minutes, it involves complex phone calls with parents, horrendous Police interviews (the kids not me) endless meetings with social workers and often watching parents sacrificing their souls for the children they adore….

So, my featured blogger this week is ‘View from a beach chair’ – her post on meeting her Foster daughter on a Saturday (click here to read it) made me appreciate the wonderful world of carers that are out there. In a world that can often be so negative, some people love hard. From reading a few more posts it seems her daughter is soon to be adopted and I have nothing but love for this kind of family. Please check it out and show true appreciation, foster care is hard and adoption can often be a battle. For the right people it comes with huge rewards, but early childhood trauma is never a calm sea journey, I salute you all.

Please also make time to see who my cohost Hayley has picked this week – you can click here or take a peek below at the rules and press the blue linky button to read all the fab bloggers who have joined us for week 22. Today my assembly was all about being thankful, and so I would like to thank all our regular bloggers that make time for joining us week after week, you are truly appreciated and #thesatsesh would be nothing without you.

RULES

  • Link up You can link up to 2 posts, old or new
  • Grab a badge Please do add #thesatsesh badge. You can do this by copying and pasting the badge code into the text/HTML area of your post within your publishing platform and its located in my side bar for your ease.
  • Tweet Share your posts on Twitter using the linky hashtag #thesatsesh and tag us in for retweets @fridgesays@mummy_mindful. Follow us if you don’t already please.
  • Comment sit back, relax (its the weekend after all). Please use #thesatsesh and in usual linky etiquette comment on each of the hosts posts, mine and Hayleys, the post before and after yours. If you comment on more, that would be wonderful but FOUR is more than enough
  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t. 

OPTIONAL EXTRA: Come and play in our IG community by using #thesatsesh for photos of your weekend or perhaps connected to a post you’ve linked. Follow us on Instagram @fridgesays and @mission_mindfulness_blog and we will keep up to date and follow you back.