13yrs collect things

Before I ask my son twenty questions (you can look back in the archives and see his younger year answers), he was outraged that I’d cut the question ‘what’s your favourite colour?’ I did this aged about nine because he always said green. He’d like you all to know it’s teal – a huge change I think we can all agree. That’s the reminder that this post always teaches me, my son came into the world knowing himself and very little has altered. He is quirky and odd, hyperactive and hyper focused on his sports and interests, he isn’t interested in what’s trending and I’ve no doubt that his forty five year old answers will be similar, perhaps preferring cobalt blue to teal…

1.What’s something I might not know about you? I dunno? There isn’t really anything you don’t know

2. If you were a teacher and you had to teach your students something, what would it be? Drama. It’s just adults playing

3. What’s your favourite fruit? Water Melon

4. What do you like to watch on TV? Suicide squad is my favourite movie, comedy is good to chill with too

5. What do you like to eat at lunch? Ciabatta with ham and cheese

6. Who’s in your family? My Mum, Dad, Pearl (our dog) Burple (leopard Ghecko) and Nathaniel (tortoise), Nanny and Grandad times two!

7. What item of clothing do you most like to wear? My Tamper Bay T-shirt

8. What game do you like to play? Avengers on Xbox one

9. What’s your favourite animal? Shark

10. What song do you most like? Metallica ‘For whom the bell tolls’

11. What makes you feel thankful? Being loved by a good family

12. Favourite book? Batman V Predator (comic)

13. What makes a good friend? Loyalty and helping each other out

14. What’s your favourite sport? Judo

15. If you had a pet dragon what would you name it? Bruce

16. What do you sleep with? Pillows and Orco (large whale from IKEA)

17. What do you like best for breakfast? Fruit loops or French toast  

18. What qualities are important in a person? Kindness but standing your ground, it’s a balance combination

19. What do you think the world needs more of? Good people

20. What’s your favourite dinner? Pizza and macaroni cheese. (Yup, he mixes them and this has been a firm favourite since forever)

We already have enough

This week I’m sharing with you a lesson I taught myself this week…honestly, it felt like I’d slapped myself in the face.

Last night I was scrolling on Instagram and found a reel of a woman who was doing a food challenge. The challenge consisted of seeing how long she could eat out of the food already in her house, rather than top up shop every few days. In the reel (it was about day seven) she was substituting ingredients such as cream with yoghurt or peas for frozen broccoli, I don’t follow the person online but scrolled up to see how many days she’d be able to do the challenge for. I was shocked to see it ended on day ten, in fact even on day ten she’d bought some chicken to go with her evening meal…regardless I was surprised because she hadn’t taken the challenge to her own discomfort eg. Day 10034 and I’ve eaten a teaspoon of jam and a pickle. instead, she feedback that she’d realised how privileged we are. We don’t necessarily cook with the ingredients we have, instead the consumer culture encourages us to have want we want to eat and if we don’t have it, it’s easily purchased in an accessible store.

As someone that does a large family shop each month and then frequents local stores several times a week for one or two things this resonated with me. Mainly, as those one or two things becomes much larger and I end up purchasing ‘treats’ and food that we don’t necessarily need.

I was still thinking about this concept the next day and decided I would make it my next blog. Home alone I was saying out loud what I would write and how I would structure the post, planning and scripting as I go, like most working parents I did this whilst also baking. I make most of our meals from scratch and a regular in my baking cycle is sourdough and homemade Soreen, Half way through adding my ingredients for the Soreen into my mixing bowl I realised I was out of dried fruit. How could I be talking about not over consuming whilst also thinking about when I could nip to the shops for some dried fruit! The ingredients (minus the dried fruit) were in the bowl – it was too late to not make it? That said Soreen without mixed fruit is well.,, brown mush?

I double checked my larder in hope that a bag of dried mixed fruit might appear when the slap to my face hit me…I didn’t have mixed fruit but I did have some dried cranberries and some (potentially passed their sell by date) raisins…I could adapt.

That’s exactly what I did. The slap felt huge mainly as I was learning about privilege and entitlement in that very same moment that my instinct was hardwired to ‘I’ll pop to the shop and get some’

Whilst I can’t promised I’ll succeed, I am resolute in trying to change this programming. We can make do, we can use alternatives and I believe it will take repetition to alter my mindset but it’s something I’m committed to trying and would encourage you to try too!

Lastly, of course the cranberry and raisins worked beautifully and my family didn’t even notice the difference.