Failure is a bruise not a tattoo

Quote by Jon Sinclair

We are designed to be learning machines and at the same time are absolutely terrified of doing something wrong? Weird or what.

Surely to learn you have to do something incorrectly to work out where you’re going wrong and amend it. If you are blessed to have somebody guide you through a new process then that’s amazing, it eases the journey and hopefully makes the process quicker.

Let me list some failures in my last twenty four hour existence.

  • At work the leavers got hoodies with the wrong names on
  • Came home to the Mr cooking dinner – several hours later I asked where the meal was (he hadn’t put the oven on)
  • A social worker didn’t turn up for a meeting, shouted at our reception staff and then I sent her the email feed where she changed the date.
  • I was in a group dance and probably went the wrong way
  • I was going to have a chocolate and ate ten

Okay, so not the end of the world, minor hiccups that can be sorted…wait what? Failures aren’t permanent, the world doesn’t stop…life will go on?

Often when I’m doing grief counselling the child will be disappointed that when their loved one died, the world didn’t stop. How can they feel so very low and yet the rest of the world continues to spin?

Failure is a perception in a moment in time, it’s actually not a helpful word either. I will not gain weight because of those ten chocolates that I scoffed. I will have a sugar high and it will quickly be followed by a sluggish low. I will not be unloved by my family because of this, I will not die. The world will continue to spin.

Thought: if we gave our accomplishments as much thought, momentum and time as we did the errors in our day, how much better would we feel? How much would life improve and how much more would we enjoy eating chocolate. Don’t ever get a tattoo that makes you feel sad every time you look at it, surely permanent moments are made for happy thoughts, quotes and images, apply that to life and you’re winning.


21 thoughts on “Failure is a bruise not a tattoo

  1. Brilliant as ever lovely. When my dad dies I was so cross that everything carried on but I suppose that’s the point isn’t it? The world keeps spinning even if your having the worse day ever and we can’t go backwards. #thesatsesh


  2. This is so true. I remember, many years ago, when my best friend died at school, i walked to my local pond and sat there staring at the water. I was angry and upset and the emotions were like a tsunami overwhelming me and drowning me. I looked at the pond and there was barely a ripple on the water. I was expecting waves and thunder and storms. My world had been turned upside down and yet the world around me was calm.

    thanks for sharing. Pen x #thesatsesh


  3. Learning to fail is a skill. I think sometimes as parents we coddle our kids so much that they never get the chance to fail. It is a part of life. #thatsatsesh


  4. Agree 100% Sometimes failure leaves one of those deep purple bruises that take a while to leave but they always do! I ask myself will it matter tomorrow, in a week, in a month, in a year… that helps me. #thesatsesh


  5. I love this! I spend so much time dwelling on the little things that have gone wrong and making myself feel worse in the process. The truth is, we need to put the negatives behind us and focus on the positives. Just because something goes wrong doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world does it. Each day is a new day to start over. X #thesatsesh


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