Confidence is silent 

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Its no coincidence that I blog using quotes as my inspiration, I’m like the mother of Gus in ‘Fault in our stars’ and could easily have quotes all over my home, from cushions to walls, tiny plaques hanging from every door handle and post-its hidden in my sons lunch. Luckily I live with Mr F who is awesome at curving such ideas when they get out of hand. We have a limit on items I find joyful like candles, pebbles or in this case quotes.

I really do enjoy analysing them, researching the author and delving into the potential meanings to move my own journey in life forwards, I hope that in some small way as readers you also connect with the content and amazing doors of opportunity open for you.

This quote isn’t like the others.

Its unique.

I wrote my full post on this quote a week a go, gave it to Mr F to spell check and generally look over when he said some words that he has never said before…”you can’t put that out, it doesn’t work – start again”, I’d like to say at this point I defended my work and told him where to go, but I didn’t – I wasn’t even upset. I knew he was right.

*disclosure: Mr F cannot use the written word above against me, particularly in arguments around ‘Im always right babe’

Why do I think its unique? because as I read it I realise that this quote doesn’t require analysis, its all there for us to absorb, it is my reality everyday; people who approach me with ego and arrogance who project their insecurities at me in a feeble attempt to cover up their self conscious beliefs verses those that magnetise me, not because they are going out of their way to capture my attention, far from it – I’m captured by the magnetic force of sincerity, when praising them they respond with heartfelt gratitude and as a person they have depth, morals and all that complex stuff in between – sure they may have weaknesses, but they are grounded and don’t feel the need to project them at me.

So how do you alter what you are projecting if you are off balance?

  • Avoid conversations with people about weight loss and appearance, it is rarely helpful and often leads you in to a negative cycle of conversation.
  • Practise self love and self worth – you can do this by grabbing a note book and listing/ focusing on the things you like, the talents you have and the assets you can offer the world
  • Make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive people

And if all of that isn’t enough then new research suggests that placing your hands on your hips (in a super hero way, not a tea pot) for a few minutes increases you inner energy and other people see this in you – without you having to publicise it. If this feels a little seventies Superman (no such thing!-Mr F.) for you then I’ve even known friends who have done this in a toilet cubicle before an interview (and got the job 🙂 There is even a TedTalk about it by Amy Cuddy.

Stay blessed this week and focus on the assets your body has and the friends who leave you beaming.


10 thoughts on “Confidence is silent 

  1. Big believer of self love and worth. Also trying to spread positivity. There are quite a few topics I don’t touch as I know people get upset by them so this is a good post. It’s knowing to be empathetic and show awareness #bloggerclubuk

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  2. What a lovely quote and a fantastic USP for your blog (although you must have a bumper crop of magnets 😉). I also love quotes and taking them slightly out of context to apply them to different situations to consider things from a different perspective. Enjoyed reading this for #BloggerClubUk

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  3. This post speaks to me quite a bit – I am totally different when I’m feeling insecure…I certainly am louder in myself than when I’m feeling unjudged and comfortable. Nervous energy or something! Very thought-provoking post and I agree to surround yourself with positive people, this makes a huge difference for my confidence #bloggerclubuk

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  4. Nothing like an inspirational quote to help focus the mind- I’m a big fan of Oscar Wilde’s wit. I’m getting better at the practicing self worth thing, mainly by reminding myself of all the things to be thankful for. X #ablogginggoodtime


  5. I have a Mr F too and he sounds similar to yours. He likes to keep my obsession with decor accessories at a minimum. It’s a powerful quote and one that may speak volumes to many people. I really agree with you second two points. I make sure people around me are naturally positive people, not that we don’t all have our off days, but generally they’re enjoyable to be around. Also focusing on how wonderful we really are instead of magnifying our flaws, it’s hard to do but is a huge confidence boost. Once you say something enough time, you believe it. I agree with your first point but I’m a big compliment giver when I like something, even to strangers. When girlys look gorgeous, I tell them but I never mention about weight. I always find weight an odd topic saying ‘oh you look so skinny’ is a little odd and not very complimentary, so I’m with you there #bloggerclubuk

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