The Saturday session #58

Thank you for joining us for week #58 of #thesatsesh its been a hell of a week, I’ve had some blog revelations, huge demands at work, the Christmas soul has been sucked out of me and then it rebirth today as we took the opportunity to get the decorations up ; seriously, what can’t be fixed with several packets of fairy lights, they are literally my happy place. The UK can be dull and this week dreary (call that torrential rain), add millions of little lights and the world seems to shimmer once more.

My featured blogger this week is the lovely Sophie from Old House in the Shires. She is a favourite blogger of mine, mainly because she has found her dream home, something we hope to do over the coming months. She also loves gardening and we are both teachers – win. This week Sophie hooked up a post all about transitions, I’ve picked it because whether our children have complex needs, specialist requirements or frankly they are just an average crazy five year old – the transitions that they need support through are crucial building blocks for the next learning stages. I deal with so many teenagers who lack resilience or the tools needed to be independent because they lacked positive transitions in early childhood. If you’re lying child free and this post doesn’t seem your thing, click the link anyway – Sophie’s blog is gloriously cliche and modern.

You can always pop over to Hayley’s blog and see who she has selected as her #thesatsesh featured blogger, or you can take a peek at the rules and join in this weeks linky.

Enjoy.

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It doesn’t matter how slow you grow as long as you don’t stop

Quote by Confucius

This quote is in my favour as it offers hope. At four foot eleven with size two feet, growing isn’t my specialty. I often think I was sneezing or distracted when they were handing out the growing genes.

However, I also know my journey through life is about to sprout new stems. Each year I need to prune the dead wood back and watch new buds form.

This year I’ll be irrigating a few new cuttings. I plan to create new plants of opportunity for this blog, my passions and family life. We will see new places, taste new food and grow mighty and tall (metaphorically speaking).

Upon reflection I guess new year is also a time to look back at things you can improve on, things that didn’t go to plan and learn from the errors of the previous year. Don’t drag dead wood into new seasons with you.

Mostly, when I garden (much like life) I make it up. Sometimes I cut back a little too hard, things die, things emerge and grow in places I didn’t plan them to. Mother Nature has a way of guiding everything to perfection…just keep growing, however small those buds may be, you never know how amazing the flowers will be when they flourish.

The Saturday session #57

Happy weekend all.

#57 opens the doors to the festive season; no panic here as its just another day with the family and one that always has its high points. This weekend i’m taking my five year old shopping and allowing him full responsibility for present buying. This will be a huge success and will be a practical demonstration of kindness/thoughtfulness or he will buy toys he wants and I’m not sure Nanny and Grandad will appreciate the Marvel figures…shall update you next week to how it goes. (pray for me)

I’m not sure anymore why I run this linky with the lovely Hayley (accept she’s a joy to work with – check out her featured blogger by clicking here), in the beginning it was a challenge but now its become a habit…then I read a blog like Isabel’s from Sustainable responsible living and my heart explodes with joy. I double dare you infinity to read her blog without learning something new. I LOVE LEARNING. Thus, she is my featured blogger this week – her tale of Avocado on toast is not like one you’ve ever read before. The origins of posh millennial food like limes and Avocado is analysed and with Isabel’s view of the world we are reeducated that this over price fruit…veg…green stuff, is in fact not as joyful as one would like to think. If you do nothing this weekend click here to read her wisdom on the mighty avocado (and I also agree with her, recently they are so mass produced they are tasteless). I love blogs like hers that open my mind to a more joyful way of living.

Thank you to everyone that is joining us this week, read the rules, click the blue box and lets kick off week fifty seven with a #thesatsesh smile. Enjoy.

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No.

To quote Hamlet, act 3, scene 3, line 87

We are on the cusp of a consumer crazy season. Of crackers with plastic and wrappings that nobody wants, that are often abandoned on the table long after the plates have been clearer away. Perhaps of saying thank you for gifts that lack thoughts, need or joy.

I know this post isn’t my usual sparkly positive self. Don’t despair, I’m about to flip it around but before I do I want to empower you with the word No. (As a Teacher and a Mum I feel Hamlet needs to add the words ‘thank you’ after his quote). Balance in life is crucial for physical and mental wellbeing. I’ve written many posts about ‘yes’ – to opportunities, change and adventure that so many of us hide from in daily life. I’m a fan honestly.

However, December seems to bring excess and anxiety for things we don’t want to do.

If you feel at all doubtful, listen to your instinct and say No.

  • Say No to buying gifts for that awkward Aunt or Uncle that you feel obliged to because they buy for you. It only takes a quick awkward phone call to release everyone of this burden for many Christmas’s to come
  • You don’t need to eat everything you’re offered
  • you can say no to sprouts.
  • You don’t need to attend that party that makes you feel anxious.
  • You don’t have to wear anything you don’t want to. I am the proud owner of zero Christmas jumpers.
  • Christmas doesn’t mean ‘spend money you don’t have’ say No.

Make sure the traditions you and your family participate in bring joy, love and a sense of fun…not awkward social events. Don’t become one of the three kings that bought guilt, anxiety and fear. Many of the innkeepers said No and it led to a way cooler version of Christmas. Baby Jesus born in a stable gathered by animals is all the better for its simplicity.

Saying No doesn’t need to be negative, it’s in fact a tool that can bring a huge amount of joy and relief. Balance is where joy and happiness can be fully embraced. This holiday season say yes to things that make you warm and smile, politely decline things your instinct tells you will add stress, keep the holiday season simple and stay present in all you do. It’s a recipe for the perfect Christmas.

The Saturday session #56

I like the number 56, it has a charm about it.

This week was a little calmer, although Black Friday once again reminds me that consumer Christmas is just around the corner. I will indulge little dude with a splash of what he has asked for from his list, but as far as everyone else goes – its experiences and memories this year. That means I’ve booked afternoon teas, theatre tickets, experiences and much more for the family. I just feel thats the essence of Christmas and family, even if I can’t always wrap it in a bow.

Hayley my cohost always selects a featured blogger from our wonderful selection of #thesatsesh writers, you can click here to see who she has picked this week – however I urge you to stay here and read all about Invisibility by the talented and clearly lovely Lisa. She is my talented featured blogger this week (grab yourself a badge from my sidebar hun) As always there is a humour in her words, but also an honest truth and an open heart as she reveals some truths about the location in which she met her partner and a hidden truth they carry. I was blown away with both the depth of her posts revelations but also the advice she gives that we can all be aware of over the festive season…if you never read another post, read one of mine, ops I mean – read this post. Seriously, just when I thought I couldn’t been anymore blown away by Lisa – this post takes her words and wisdom to new levels.

If you are joining us this week, have a read of the rules and click the blue box at the bottom of the page. Have a wonderful week all.

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Wake. Pray. Slay

Quote by awesome Anon

I find that if I can wake on my terms (without a little ninja creeping in and tackling me) I can literally take on the world.

Seriously it’s like a revolutionary universal explosion, when the ninja does creep in my day is more like the Jurassic age…mummy dinosaur is ferocious. I’ve wrote a post before about my morning routine but thought I’d write about how I turn my Mummy-Rex in to a mummy dream when things don’t go as planned.

I lock myself in the toilet. We are blessed with both an upstairs and downstairs bathroom, so if one is out of action nobody has the excuse to break down the door. I basically sit and reawaken. It’s not as snug as my bed, but it’s ninja attack free. I then do some simple breathing techniques that I find work for me. I’ve also been known to do these in public bathrooms when my stress levels are going crazy. It’s called the OM breath and just two minutes is enough to reduce your heart rate by two thirds. I also like it because as you breath in and out you make a rasping sound that reminds me of waves. Google it, it works and the tutorials are hilarious.

I write a list. Seriously, I’m a spiritual being but have never found joy in prayer, but a list is like fuel in my engine. It gives me direction in an otherwise chaotic day, I feel a huge sense of achievement as I tick off each item. I’ve even been known to add things I’ve done previously to writing the list, on the list, just so I can tick them off. I even have a notebook dedicated to lists.

Self care indulgence. Everyday I squeeze in a little self care, it might be painting my nails, lighting candles, clearing out a draw, ringing a friend…but on days when I’ve turned it around I reward myself with bonus time. Today was indeed a slay day. There was so much to do and I was a single parent with the Mr away, so once the ninja was asleep I had a bubble bath, hair treatment, painted my nails, lit candles, listened to a podcast, had some posh tea and even made time (thanks to the tribe of support) to squeeze in a yoga class.

…why? Because when you’ve slayed you need to do two things.

  • Celebrate: because whatever you were slaying was exhausting.
  • Top up your cup: there’s that wise old saying that you can’t pour from an empty cup and frankly my cup was cracking today, nobody wants me to leak over them so best I fill in the chip and recharge.

I hope you wake to slay tomorrow. How do you turn things around when your day isn’t going as planned? Please share any tips in the comment section 🙂

The Saturday Session #55

Thank you for joining us for week fifty five of #thesatsesh, feel free to use the hashtag on social media to promote what you are up to this weekend. I’m being rather exotic on Saturday mixing watching my son at Judo with a haircut for him in the afternoon – don’t be jealous.  I won’t type Sundays cleaning plans, they may make you feel inadequate about the lack of thrill in your own life.

As always you can see who Hayley has picked as her featured blogger (click here), or you can read about my choice. Kelly from Day dreams of a Mum who wrote a superb blog all about the little wins of life and so it was easy to pick my featured blogger. I loved the post because I do believe that whilst we all strive for the mountain tops of life, we often miss the view along the way. It also highlighted to me that individuals have different challenges to others, that what I may consider effortless another may find a struggle or unattainable. I’m also a huge fan of celebrating and think that there are so many wins in life if we choose to celebrate them. Tonight, I am certainly going to raise a glass to Kelly and her list of wins. Its a post that I think we can all grow and blossom from.

If you’d like to join us for all the fives, then read the rules below, click the blue box at the end of this post and read some awesome posts from a variety of talented bloggers. I’d also like to thank everyone who joined us last week, I really enjoyed reading your work.

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  • Following the rules means you may qualify for our featured blogger announced weekly, plus this linky is run by school teachers so detention for anyone that doesn’t

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Listen to your body, it’s smarter than you.

Quote Anon

It was in my twenties that I first witnessed someone that was silly drunk. I happen to have been driving that night and my sober perspective of the unattractive drunk stuck with me. The woman kept drinking and then throwing up. I remember thinking, your body is repelling the poison and you’re still drinking? Finally the body won, she was out cold. In a state of semi consciousness not even her determination to drink could occur whilst she slept.

People that consume too much of just about anything usually end up with a medical condition that prevents them from having any more. It usually comes with a warning from the body, a wobble and a demonstration of struggle.

Inactive people also see signs from the body, physical but usually also a mental deterioration.

Most days I make time to be still. Either at the end of a yoga practise, meditation or flat out on the bed in a pile of exhaustion. Recently I’ve learnt to listen for the signs my body gives me to stop prior to getting ill. I then try and redirect my attention and where possible resettle the balance. It’s usually solved by an early night, a little more veg or a vitamin boost. The body’s needs aren’t that complex. Like a new born it needs to be kept warm, fed, and dry…when we push our bodies due to misbalanced lives it screams out and doesn’t thrive.

In the UK as we move in to both colder months and also busy social calendars, I urge you to joining me in listening to your body. It’s like your mother, it knows best. Indulge it what it needs and I promise it will reward you with a healthier and vibrant you.

*disclosure; or rather an apology to my body. I’m imperfect and have over the years pushed my body too far, drank too much, consumed too many calories, not enough or frankly ignored my body’s capacity to be smarter than me.

Sorry body.

The Saturday session #54

Welcome to another #thesatsesh blog, thanks for joining us and i’d like to take the opportunity wish you an awesome week ahead. I’m personally trying to keep November very present and calm. I’ve already seen the Christmas decorations in the shops and I refuse to have the last 60 days of the year swept up in a sea of tinsel. I’m making the most of what November has to offer…so far traffic jams, pumpkins and late nights at work…ooo and sparklers. I guess like most months the good and the bad.

As always my cohost Hayley has picked a featured blogger (click here to see who it is) or keep reading and see who I selected. This week Isabel from ‘Sustainable responsible living’ caught my eye, her post lit up the linky…(too corny? even for me) Okay, she wrote a post all about ‘being a lighthouse for others’ – a metaphor I adored. Reaching out and creating a positive and conscious life it what my life it all about, obviously I’m still in training pants, but its something I strive from. If your new to Isabel’s blog then its certainly worth a read, she solves environmental issues in a compassionate and kind manner – whats not to love! She is also not too hippy and operates in the real world so her results are achievable. This week I listened to a podcast that has shown me I need to stop eating meat, I’ve made little nudges to it, but I know in the next few months this is a goal I personally need to strive for. Gosh, being kind is exhausting! One thing that isn’t is Isabel’s view of the world #inspiring

Many thanks if you are rejoining us, new and shiny or just using us to read some awesome blogs. Blogger’s click the link below to start the party….or just click and read (I personally recommend a cup of tea to accompany)

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Find your equal, not your whole

Quote from Mia.

I’ve read a few things lately about people finding a partner just as they stop looking. I thought today I’d share my hypothesis on why I think this happens, because let’s face it the opposite sex isn’t anything like a bus.

I had a relationship before the Mr which slowly suffocated my soul. I lost me in a bubble of us, weirdly I didn’t even notice until the relationship ended. Always together and rarely apart. This is odd for me to reflect on as I’m an independent character, who although relies on a tribe around me, craves me time. It’s no surprise that in a mild argument I mumbled the power tripping and cinematic cliche lines “I think we need a break” he responded with a two week meet up and by day nine I rang and asked if we could not bother. There was nothing to discuss. I was done. In those nine days I saw friends, went dancing, took up spontaneous opportunities, read several books, but most importantly found me. There was nothing and everything wrong with that romance, since I called him on day nine I have never spoken or seen him since, which is odd given that it was a three year relationship.

I then continued the pattern of me, fell in love again with my life and whoosh like a magnet attracted the Mr. This soul mate arrived in the most bizarre of circumstance (if you like a ‘how we met’ story you can read more here) and when I asked another cliche line: “so are we boyfriend and girlfriend now?” He responded with “No, I haven’t got time for that kind of commitment”…well a decade later; two children, two dogs, a couple of houses and a joint bank account tells a different story, but more importantly I learnt from the previous relationship and never sacrificed me.

We have things we like to do together, as a family and things I do on my own. He is my equal and we are growing together, sharing ideas and visions, supporting each other as a unit and each others individual paths. He is not my whole world, although I would crumble if he left, my sense of self has a sturdy foundation. I wouldn’t break.

I think there is something sexy about people that aren’t needy. Something whole about a sense of self. If I could give my teenage self one piece of advice it would probably be to make more time to discover ‘me’ to evolve her and try new things. To work out what fits and what suffocates. Imagine finding someone that made you whole, personally I’d choose equal every time. After all, in maths = comes before the answer.