Sleep is an investment not an expense

Classical music has many super powers. It fires up our neurone pathways and can increase memory, reduce stress and in 2020 The Royal Philharmonic Orchestra did a study that concluded that classical vibes increased our overall wellbeing. The list of benefits goes on and the research is plentiful.

Many parents have played classical music to their infants as a way of helping them to soothe and sleep and research suggests it makes babies smarter. Mozart is the most popular and can be heard on many baby products for this reason and is due to its frequency’s and pitch. The playlists for Mozarts sleep inducing sounds are endless on platforms such as Spotify. However, today I wanted to share newer research around helping children and adults on the Autistic spectrum to get to sleep.

A neurotypical brain will generally slow down before sleeping, with periods of silence before slumber, calming music, scents and ambience all helping to soothe our senses and prepare for sleep. However, neurodivergent brains never slow down and are rarely silent making sleep a common issue for parents of autistic children.

This is because the silence and the calming background makes the autistic persons brain ‘even louder’, it’s common for parents to report that their neurological babies often slept best at loud family gatherings or crowded scenarios than in the calm and relaxed environment of their bedroom, whilst white noise can sometimes help, the ever active autistic brain is always active and loud.

Lack of sleep or poor sleep hygiene will often lead to antisocial behaviour and a quick temperament, as the brain has not fulfilled its need for good quality REM sleep.

The solution it seems for autism sleepers is a variation of tempo and frequency. Rachmanioff is a great choice – he’s sound whilst still within the classic genre are much ‘busier’ and give the brain so many aspects to listen to that autistic sleeper is stimulated and can then turn off their internal dialogue which allows them to fall to sleep far quicker and with little effort.

If you live with an Autistic teen and perhaps classic music isn’t their ‘vibe’ then some dubstep music can have similar results in helping them to transcend to a good nights sleep quickly and with little fuss. Sleep hygiene is important for all our wellbeing’s, both mentally, physical and so we can emotionally regulate. For once, I hope this post sends you to sleep and please feel free to share the article if you think someone in your universe may benefit from trying some of the ideas.

Zoe’s Christmas wish 

I hope the festive season is all that you hoped for, that santa was kind and loved ones (where possible) were near. I have a story that I’d like to share, it’s my interpretation of what Christmas means and it doesn’t involve a Mary, or a donkey – it does however involve an awesome thirteen year old called Zoe and some light up Polar Bears. 

Let’s set the scene…it’s mid December and just before the real FC jumps in his sleigh and works some serious overtime the wonderful local Lions charity come around our village with a santa representative on a sleigh (back of a van) with loud music, lights and elves that collect change but also give the children gifts. Last year my little man adored it but sadly for all sorts of reasons the event wasn’t happening this year. 

Enter the heroine of this story, Zoe. I’ve never met Zoe but I have read Facebook messages from her mum on our village page. Zoe has the gift of Autism which means traditions are sacred to her daily structure and the Lions charity event formed part of her Christmas preparations. However it wasn’t the disruption to herself that was the cause of her angst, she was devastated that the children in our village would miss out…

In her words: ‘the children won’t get flutterbys (excited) if santa doesn’t come or give an early present. Mummy can we make a grotto in our garden? I will buy the presents myself with my pocket money and the children can come here to get flutterbys…I don’t want the children to be sad.’

Zoe took her own pocket money and bought lots of toys, she wrapped them and then a few days before Christmas, she (via her Mum on the Facebook page) invited the children of the village to her front garden, lights ( some seriously cute polar bears), sweets and a gifts were on offer and best of all (in my little mans eyes) a snow machine. 

Her Mum mean while was worried that nobody would attend. We did and so did many others. Unfortunately we arrived too early to meet Zoe as she was overwhelmed by the people and the noises and stayed in her room, popping in and out when she could. For Zoe the event that was a few hours in length caused sleepless nights and an abundance of anxiety. However, an update on the Facebook site later that evening thanking everyone for coming and mentioned that she did come down, stayed and even spoke to some people. That’s seriously courageous. 

I’m blessed to work with teenagers aged eleven to sixteen and they often have a bad reputation. I’ve also worked with Autistic children for most of my working life. The behaviour issues and negativity of the condition are well known rather than the potential they offer. At a time when people are consumed by wants and desires;  Zoe made the choice to give to complete strangers, she has taught my family about love, compassion and giving which is what the season is really about, isn’t it? 

The event also meant that Zoe had to defeat the constraints that Autism can have in order to be part of the event, she was resilient and in my  opinion brave. For one evening she over came the fear, the sensory overload and she won. She won my heart and she taught me and my son the true meaning of Christmas. 

*Thank you to Zoe and her Mum for letting me share this tale with you all.