Quote Anon

If you are naturally an empathetic soul then this quote will be your life’s work to not take on others struggles like a comfort blanket. However, we all misinterpret boundaries at times and need to check in with when to care and when to walk away. Not everyone wants to be rescued, not everyone can be rescued and saving them isn’t always down to you.

One of my favourite downtime activities is to people watch. To look at strangers from across a cafe and decide alongside my imagination what life has served them to bring them to this moment, what they are discussing in that moment and why they are in the cafe. I usually give them names and whilst I add details that probably overdramatise the situation, I sip my tea and walk away. It’s purely an observation activity.

In life and with loved ones, friends or family, we can share opinion’s but we can’t force them to take action, this is actually a blessing. My job title has the words ‘Adviser’ in it, and I often highlight to clients when they are hesitant about my advice that my job title isn’t ‘must be followed’ and that they do not need to take my guidance. There is something empowering about realigning with your own instincts.

If you do find yourself absorbing others energy it can be exhausting, stressful and as you absorb there negativity you can find yourself becoming ill. The great news is that you can do something about this. This scenario involves you. Even when you feel you don’t have the power, that the timing isn’t perfect (it never is), you can take action. So much of our screen time these days involves blockbuster hero movies with dramatic ‘save the earth in under 48 hours’ story lines, again we can forget that, in real life the action may be small, it may be you carving time away from the person or not responding to every text message instantly but it can have a huge benefit to your quality of life.

As we enter a new year and might consider keeping our body in better condition, remember that it isn’t just the food that we absorb, but that our bodies is well due to the company we keep too. You deserve the best, so make sure the time you spend is with people who enhance your existence and are calming to be around.