Quote Anon

Recently the positive power princesses of the world have polluted the planet with positivism that is so sickly it’s vile. Let my fridge be the first place to say that it’s ok to have a bad day and it’s certainly normal not to love your life every single minute…sometimes life’s horrible and you’re not entirely sure why? Sometimes you know exactly why…that’s life.

Kindness is something that I value. That I try and deliver and a quality recognise in others. HOWEVER it comes with a spine and much like this quote kindness should not be exchanged or confused for naivety or ignorance. I will pull over in my car and let a person cross the road, especially if it’s raining. I’ll give way to vehicles and let cars out when needed…I won’t stop for everyone or let all the cars in the world out of a junction that causes me to be late and a traffic jam to form behind me…my spine is central and aligned with my boundaries.

I will call friends, try to remember certain dates, keep them in mind and give effort to our relationship. I won’t keep calling if they never return the gesture.

I will share baked treats with others and I won’t expect this is return. We all have our love languages. I won’t however bake goods on demand…

Acts of kindness should be at the core of our interaction with others, central in our communities, when doing them they should enrich our lives and those that receive them, when kindness is given and received with any alternative motive it can feel like a nettle sting and that’s when you need to check your own boundary. My gut is where I keep my kindness, freely given until my gut instinct tells me otherwise. You don’t have to go anything that makes you feel taken advantage of, you don’t have to keep the communication going when others don’t do their part just because you’ve known them for so long, or they are family.

Always be kind. Always give more than you receive but make sure you have a spine. That you can still stand tall. That your kindness isn’t given at a cost to your own health or wellbeing, make sure any acts come from a place of love and not duty and most of all, start the kindness process with yourself.