A new series with an Introduction to click and read which will hopefully clarify why I am writing about my role models.
I probably should begin with a superstar or a more relatable character, I should also probably have picked someone in my own life who’s name I can recall…alas I have always been a limited edition crayon in the box and have decided to pick The man at the bus stop.
It was around 1998-1999 and I was studying for my A levels, I usually caught a lift with a friend of mine who was on similar courses to me, however as luck would have it there were a couple of occasions when our timetables didn’t synchronise and I would have to get the bus alone. The late nineties were also a time when the walkman was dead, the iPod not yet invented and the mobile phone was a brick…so I usually had on me my CD player for company (for some reason electric devices make us humans feel less alone?), now the CD player for your ‘on the go’ listening needs was, well also crap and you had to hold the player flat so the CD could spin around without skipping. At the bus stop was an old man and he made a joke about my CD player and the fact that it was frustrating me. Raised well, I promptly placed the crap device in my ‘record bag’ (oh the irony) and chatted to him. He explained that he was getting the same bus as me, as on a Thursday he always went to the local day centre. He gets fed for a fiver and basically loves attention from all the ladies. He lived in the elderly peoples home opposite the bus stop and over the coming weeks I would look forward to our chats. At the time I did know his name and he would greet me with “Good morning, I love Lucy” a reference to a black and white American sitcom that I vaguely knew of. We would jump on the bus together and he would chat about what he had been up to and which ‘young’ lady he was hoping to sit next to that day at the day centre. It was during these chats that he would often apologise that he wouldn’t be at the bus stop because of one commitment or another, often it was due to travel – he loved cruises and would come back a week or so later with a tan to die for and tell me about all the ladies he had danced with, the cuisine he had tasted (always better than the food in the retirement home) and the places he had seen. He was a gentleman and a dapper dresser, he was in his late eighties and he taught me a valuable lesson, to never stop living or dancing. In contrast he would also tell me about all the ‘dead’ people that he had left behind in his care home, I wouldn’t always know how to react and he would make me laugh by saying something like ‘don’t worry they will still be asleep in the same chair when I get home”. I promised him that I would keep dancing and its a promise that I will keep until I’m as young as him.
He was also the first man to give me a regret, one that I have been able to let go of as I know he wouldn’t of minded.
The Birthday Bash
He invited me to his 90th birthday party and I didn’t go. I didn’t go because I was seventeen and too cool for my own good, I didn’t go because I thought my friends would think I was weird….I wish I had gone.
A few weeks after his ninetieth birthday he wasn’t at the bus stop. Nor the next week, I knew he wasn’t on a cruise as he would of told me and so I remember vividly speaking to my Mum about it. She advised that I pop into the home and ask if he was ill etc. I knew from our bus jaunts that he was widowed and didn’t have any children / family. I 100% planned to take my Mums advice – seriously if that woman says ‘take a coat’ you know a tsunami is going to hit London, however on the morning that I had planned to ‘pop over’ I noticed his window had altered. The once beige curtains were floral and a vase sat in the centre of the window sill. I didn’t need to ask.
I will always smile when I see a man in freshly polished brogues and I will never forget the wisdom and life he maintained until our last stop together.
Oh he sounds such a lovely old man bit good to hear he carried on dancing til the end. #satsesh
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Thanks x he defo did
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This story melted my heart a little. He sounds like a lovely man. And I’m sure he adored his chats with you! #thesatsesh
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Thanks twinkle, it’s funny how something like a bus stop chat can stay with you x
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Oh this is so bittersweet, and I loved reading about this story, what a lovely old man #thesatsesh
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Indeed…a legend x
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Lovely post- we definitely need to appreciate our old folks more and spend more time talking with them. #thesatsesh
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I’m a huge fan of the over 70s x
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Ahh lovely post! What a inspiring man; defo glittery! #thesatsesh
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Haha I’m telling you he was so well presented
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This story makes me go all “awwwww”
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Lol he was a cute dude about town. Sometimes it’s the little things – right?
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It is a lovely story to hold on to and smile X #thesatsesh
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Totally agree x
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He sounds like a lovely old man and I am sure he absolutely loved his chats with you at the bus stop. Don’t feel guilty. Pen x #thesatsesh
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I don’t anymore, he wasn’t a ‘guilty’ character himself. I do love the stories of our elders.
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Oh Lucy you’ve got me crying over my cuppa on a Monday morning. Keep dancing girl and it’s a good reminder to us all. What a fabulous thing that you got to meet and engage with him. Though you were ‘too cool’ to go to the party, many 17 year olds may not have had the confidence/where-with-all to have chatted over those weeks so I think the younger you (and your Mum and Dad) needs congratulating for this. I love your reference to the portable CD player – I remember trying to go for runs with mine in my bumbag!!!!!! #thesatsesh xx
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Lol…running with a CD player is as crazy as those mud runner peeps lol. He was a lovely chap, I’m partial to talking to random people and 99% of the time it’s a blessing x sorry for the tears / hope you caught them in your cuppa x
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🙂 – as per one of your other posts about marmite if i recall – they were much needed and cathartic so I appreciated the opportunity! xx
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I love this. Speaking and befriending elderly people, especially one as lonely as this man who lives in a home without family, is really great. I had volunteered for a nursing home when i was around 17 also, “too cool” like you put it, but it is so eye opening. I love the “I love lucy” reference! #thesatsesh
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He was such a fab character, a real legend. Yes, sad that he had no family x
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I could relate so much to this story, in my early nursing years I did so much work with the elderly, those chats meant the world to them, you will probably never have now back then but you would have made his life so much happier. What a gorgeous story to share. #thesatsesh
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Thanks, lol I never thought about how much in meant to be…fab perspective
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What a wonderful post! Lovely he is a hero to you! Thank you for sharing him, with all of us! #thesatsesh xoxo
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No worries x
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Aw this is so lovely. I always chatted to people at the bus stop growing up! And I don’t know why this reminds me of this but the other day as I was walking down the road if I saw someone who was older I would say hello or good morning but when I saw someone of my age or younger I wouldn’t of said hello as I think they would think I was strange. It’s a real shame xx
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Same…I smile and say hello anyway, screw stranger danger as well. If my son is with me I encourage him to smile too x
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I love this. One of my favourite things is having a chatting with older people as I think you can learn so much from them. I always wonder what they were like when they were younger too. It sounds like you brightened up his life for that period, he sounds like a real fun loving soul who just saw age as a number, a great lesson to us all. It funny how these brief encounters can have such an impact on our lives.
#thesatsesh
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Totally agree. I’m a sucker for a elderly chat and a cuppa x
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